Mommy Trauma

The T word. As a therapist I used to hear this word and it sent tingles down my whole body. I did not like the word. After years of reflection and being forced to run a trauma group, I finally figured out why this word was so hard for me to hear. I am pretty optimistic and I did not want to hear about all the bad things in the world. I know there is murder, abuse, molestation, struggle, and the list can go on and on. Though even as a therapist, I did not want to even think about it. We can that AVOIDANCE! I wanted to push those awful things aside and work on changing the mindset of my clients. Though I realized when running a trauma group you can’t tell someone who has gone through the hardest moments of their life to “move on” or “look at it differently.” They actually may need to relive those awful moments, but in a safe environment. I have found that clients who deal with trauma need that safe space to feel all the uncomfortable emotions they felt but in this case it is within a place that comforts them and they can find the tiny bit of control they have. It is so empowering! Though it truly can’t happen unless they feel safe to share those scary emotions. I think about this for our moms, our grandmamas and all of the woman who have gone through a traumatic event and still need to take care of another human being. I hope for them that they can be able to find a safe space to begin to touch on those uncomfortable emotions and slowly but surely change how they view those events. It is hard but it truly won’t happen unless they are able to have that safe space. I pray for every mom out there, they find it!